Self-confidence is the self-assurance in your ability, power, and judgment. With self-confidence, you can accomplish whatever you set your mind to do. That is why it is necessary to build up our confidence. Self-confidence is about balance, some people are overconfidence while some are under-confidence, and you need the right amount of confidence to succeed.
Under-confidence limits your abilities; you avoid taking risks and stretching yourself or probably not try anything at all. However, being overconfidence may lead to taking too much risk, stretching yourself beyond your abilities which will result in crashing badly.
The right amount of confidence can sprout your actual ability. You will stretch yourself, but not beyond your capabilities. Take the necessary risks you need to succeed, so how do you build self-confidence?
Evaluate your inner circle
The people around you influence your self-confidence in one way or the other. This is the time to evaluate your friends and family. How do they make you feel? Do you feel downcast or empowered after talking to them? You need to consider getting away from people who tear down your confidence and who put you down.
You need to stay active, let your interactions with others fume real enthusiasm. Stop focusing on your past failures and focus on solutions and making positive changes. If your inner circle is not supporting you, it’s time to expand your circle. The best way is to hang out with people who have the same or similar mindset, goals and abitions as yours. You can find them at personal development seminars such as Unleash The Power Within event.
Your body language tells more about your confidence level than you think. When talking to people, these body styles can help you boost up your body language;
- Eye contact: Do you look at people’s shoes or shoulders when discussing with them? The best way to build up your confidence is keeping eye contacts. Keeping eye contact shows the level of your confidence
- Smile: keep smiling no matter how bad or tiresome your day looks, smiling makes you feel better and also make people more comfortable with you.
- Speech: don’t rush your ideas when discussing with people, it will only give them the impression that you are scared. Talk gently and calmly and see how your confidence grows. Research has shown that those who take the time to speak slowly feel more self-confidence and appear more self-confident to others.
- Shoulders: don’t slouch, keep it backward
With the right posture and body language, you draw people close to you and gradually be the confident man or woman you truly are.
Give yourself a clean shave, style your hair and dress nicely. Staying clean will make you feel good about yourself and make others to see you as a strong and self-confident person.
Low self-confidence is mainly caused by negative thoughts going through our minds. You have the power to control what runs through your mind. However, you cannot stop bad thoughts from coming, but you can stop it from planting a seed in your mind. That is why you need to stay positive, think positive and surround yourself with positive people. When you feel and see the negative thoughts creeping into your mind, you need to instantly fight it with all the positive thoughts because our thoughts define us.